I SHALL know why, when time is over,
And I have ceased to wonder why;
Christ will explain each separate anguish
In the fair schoolroom of the sky.
He will tell me what Peter promised,
And I, for wonder at his woe,
I shall forget the drop of anguish
That scalds me now, that scalds me now.
Emily Dickinson
I have been trying lately (if by “lately” you understand that I mean something like the last two days) to stop worrying so much. If I have faith in God, and if I believe in loving my neighbor like myself, and if I carry Christ’s crucifixion like a stone in my heart, then I should be able to rest on the surety that everything is going to be fine. Y’all, this is hard.
Everything always turns out okay in the end. But when I’m going through this stuff, it’s the Worst Time Ever and Everyone Hates Me and Nothing Will Ever Go Right Again and Why Must This Happen To Me?
It’s actually kind of affirming to know that Emily both dealt with this stuff and grappled with the difficulty of these kinds of situations. Too often I think Christians believe that being doubtful or downright angry about knotty situations must mean that we’re doubting God–or that being in a situation means that you’re being punished for something. In reality, I can be angry about a situation I’m in, and worried about it, and unhappy about going through it, while still believing that my faith is pretty okay. Also, bad things happen to everybody. It’s just life.
The speaker here knows that her troubles aren’t necessarily that important, in the grand scheme of things. They’re already superimposed against the enormity of life, death, and heaven, and her current troubles will soon be nothing more than a child’s lesson. She also knows that, with enough time, she’ll forget her worries, too.
That doesn’t mean that they don’t hurt now, though, which is scored so powerfully in the repetition in the last line.
My son scraped his hand at the school playground today. He told me about it in the car after I picked him up. “It’s a big scrape,” he told me. “My teacher had to give me two band-aids, but they fell off. It was bleeding and everything.” Said scrape is, of course, the size of an actual mustard seed, and it has not bled one bit. It’s a big deal to him, though, until he forgets it tomorrow.
But the important part is that it’s a big deal. It hurts. It doesn’t matter how small the hurt looks to me. It doesn’t matter that it won’t matter tomorrow. It doesn’t matter that the speaker won’t remember this hurt by the end of her life. Acknowledging the pain is important, and necessary, and normal.
When my son tells me that he needs a band-aid for what is going to be less than a memory tomorrow, I don’t always love having to drag one out, but today I did it. I pulled out the Neosporin and the Spiderman band-aid, and he was happy. How often do we resist offering the band-aids for small hurts? And what, in the end, does that gain us?
Spiderman band-aid, ice cream, handwritten letter: give out the small comforts today.